Life Without Father

Those who support same-sex marriage believe that its opponents (primarily Christians) are narrow and perhaps bigoted, as the proponents don’t see the harm to our society if same-sex marriage is allowed. A look at a few of the topics marshaled to support various positions should prove otherwise.

We began on the topic of same-sex marriage but have since touched on:

  • crime prevention and public safety,
  • belief systems,
  • scriptural inerrancy,
  • bizarre marriage arrangements,
  • our court system,
  • equal rights,
  • faith and reason,
  • generational alienation,
  • divorce and the breakup of the family, and
  • the tragedy of fatherlessness.

If nothing else, the discussions over the past few days should prove that something as vital as re-defining marriage would have far-reaching consequences on our culture.

I want to thank Philip for the energy and thought he brought to each round of discussions. Despite the passions inherent in our subject matter, he has remained respectful. For that, I am grateful and hope that we will have future friendly jousts on the turf of ideas, time allowing.

In a previous posting, I gave some depressing statistics re fatherlessness in America. Philip was dubious, writing that in “the social sciences, data can be found to support either side of an issue.” He didn’t, however, cite references to support that view.

To honor his request for my sources, I’ve listed two links below. There’s plenty available to show the dangers to children without a father in the home—a condition that affects 40% of all kids in America, according to US News and World Report.

The following came from .

  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the national average.
  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
  • 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average.  (Center for Disease Control)
  • 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average.  (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)

Father Factor in Education Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of school (National Principals Association Report).

  • Children with fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school.
  • Children with fathers who are involved are 70% less likely to drop out of school.
  • 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average.

This website includes equally depressing comparisons of fatherless children regarding substance abuse, incarceration, criminal activity, and child abuse perpetuated against their own children.

The following comments and statistics shed light on the breakup of marriages, as reported here:

Sadly, 50% of the mothers see no value in a father’s continued contact with his children and 40% said they had interfered with the father’s visitation to punish their ex-spouse. A 1992 study by Fulton County Georgia Jail Populations and Texas Dept. of Corrections reported that 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home.

Children from fatherless homes are:

  • 4.6 times more likely to commit suicide,
  • Girls were 6.6 times more likely to become teenaged mothers,
  • 24.3 times more likely to run away,
  • 15.3 times more likely to have behavioral disorders,
  • 6.3 times more likely to be in a state-operated institutions,
  • 10.8 times more likely to commit rape,
  • 6.6 times more likely to drop out of school,
  • 15.3 times more likely to end up in prison while a teenager.

Where would you begin to stop even one of these dangerous trends?


About samuelehall

A follower of Jesus, husband, father of 3 adult children, writer and learner.
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